Signs You Might be in a Bad Relationship

This song is different than the others I've written about because it is in Japanese. I don't know Japanese except a few words and phrases due to my nerd outs on anime, so please don't expect me to translate. I'm pretty much assuming the lyrics are along the lines of what is being portrayed in the MV. That being said, here is my commentary.

I'm not sure if everyone can relate to this video. However, THIS WAS MY LIFE FOR A SEMESTER (4 MONTHS). I'm a person who tends to over-think things after it's all said and done. Especially if I'm constantly reminded of it. I noticed it all comes down to perspective. At the time, all of my friends saw me as the girl in the video- miserable and unattached. I thought I was happy because he met everything on the list of what I thought I wanted. My perspective in the relationship was clouded by my ideals. I didn't realize I was in a bad relationship till it was over....

The Actual Difference Self-Confidence and Respect Makes

"Bayside Couple" by mrhayata @ flickr

I stumbled upon this article, The Actual Difference Between Women Who Are Hot And Who Are Beautiful, by Lauren Martin while she makes an excellent distinction between being described as "hot" versus "beautiful" as a woman, she begins her article with negative undertones towards men. 

She begins by listing different adjectives with sexual innuendos that are used to describe a woman's appearance. Eventually, she distinguishes it's not all men who determine a woman's worth by their sex appeal, however, for most of the article she treats men as a whole, essentially describing them as sex crazed, only seeing women as objects. 

I have some issues with this argument because it's not fully one-sided as she makes it seem. Women describe men with adjectives that are suggestive, such as hot and sexy. We put pressure on them about having the perfect set of abs and arms, the slightly rugged look similar to David Beckham. They shouldn't be overweight or underweight. We put a lot of pressure on them too and forget to use the words like handsome and attractive to describe one we like. 

Deal-breakers

Relationships are tough. I only been in one serious relationship that lasted 2 years and a bunch of "oh we're dating but I only see you in school and we don't talk outside of school" relationships. I don't really count the latter since most of those averaged out at 9 days. Then a couple that were on the way to being serious but died after a few months. It happens. They're all very unique life experiences.

Why am I bringing up my past T-Swift inspiring failed relationships? Well, through these relationships I have realized some of my personal deal-breakers. I also had a conversation about deal-breakers  with an old friend the other day, so I thought of compiling a list of what my very practical and somewhat odd deal-breakers are for a blog post.

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